Reclaim Your Patience

 

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 Montana de Oro State Park, Los Osos, CA

Montana de Oro State Park, Los Osos, CA

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The Moon, Space

 Kanchanaburi, Thailand

Kanchanaburi, Thailand

 Aquidneck Island, Newport, RI

Aquidneck Island, Newport, RI

 From the Staten Island Ferry, NY

From the Staten Island Ferry, NY

 Huntington Beach State Park, SC

Huntington Beach State Park, SC

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Patience truly is a virtue.

And often, not one we have when we're going through such turbulence in life. We want answers now, want a resolution now, we want to feel better now. But as you know from your own experience, there is no easy and quick fix or answer.

And so we must learn to be patient, both with others and ourselves.

I think patience and trust go hand in hand, because if we are trusting that all will be well, then we can ease into patience with a grounded feeling of belief.

We can ease up just a little bit on the anxious worry and the irritable impatience that can sour our days and leave us berating ourselves for overreacting or having a quick temper.

So how do we arrive at a place of patience?

Go back to strengthening our trust and our faith. Affirming that everything is working out for the highest good, even if it doesn't look so pretty right now, it does require a leap of faith to trust that whatever we're going through is for our growth and our ultimate best.

For example, I did not want a divorce but I kind of had my head in the sand about just how bad things had gotten in the marriage. There were lies and anger outbursts and then I discovered the cheating. Not very pleasant or healthy at all.

I was in a very dark desperate state after he left.

But, my first book was born from that experience. I'd wanted to write a book that would be helpful to adults since I was 11 years-old. In a very painful but self evolving way, my book was realized only because of the demise of my marriage.

It takes time to heal from heartache, to accept disappointments when things didn’t work out the way we’d planned. It takes time to create something new when we didn't really want to. But if we take a deep breath and accept where we are in the moment, we can bring in the calming feeling of patience.

Be patient with yourself for where you are in your process. Having patience means you are practicing kindness and self compassion. You aren't beating yourself up for not being better, faster, doing more, having crying bouts, staying in bed too long and maybe over indulging in whatever it is that you do to numb the pain a bit.

Access the kind and loving patient and wise inner self. Bring forth those qualities of your higher and best self.

Patience invites us into the moment. It asks us to look around, take a breath and accept where we are. Where we are in any current moment changes rapidly. And all we have are groupings of these little moments. So why not allow ourselves to be in the current moment, with our calm awareness of the positive changes we trust are evolving and will be brought into our lives all in good time.

Start small:

  • In line at the grocery store - instead of feeling rushed, look around, observe people, objects, look up at the ceiling, just be present in that moment. Practice trusting it will be your turn soon enough.

  • Waiting for gas? The person ahead of you is taking a bit too long, and you've got places to go? That's another opportunity to practice patience. Relax into the moment, allowing it to be what it is. Maybe it's the Universe's way of having you slow down.  

  • The kids not getting ready fast enough in the morning? What if this were a magical moment. You'll all get out of the house, and yes you may all be late. But they're trying, they're scurrying to find the shoe or the notebook to put in the backpack. Let go and adore them in that moment. Cherish the sounds of their hurried footsteps clonking around. Appreciate their little faces as they bound the corner, flush-faced and with their hair tousled.

Once you've tried practicing patience with some smaller things, see if you can move into applying it to the larger issues you may be dealing with. 

Be patient with yourself in the process ~ it takes time to change, and it takes consistent practice. You'll get there. 

Throughout your day today, when you see Grey, let it be a reminder to center yourself and practice being patient. Let go and just be in the moment. How will you remember this? I’m hoping these pictures might stay with you!

Take good care of your heart and soul,

Patty Blue Hayes

~ The Seed Does Not Become A Blossom Overnight ~