patty blue hayes

I think of our souls as beautiful flowers in the garden of life - and sometimes things happen that crush our petals and weaken our stems. 

Are you coping with a divorce or break-up?

This group is for you if you believe you can get through the heartbreak, but you just don't know how. You're looking for guidance and need to hear from someone who's been there, done that.

I've been there.

When my marriage ended abruptly, I sunk to the depths of depression and felt abandoned and so alone. I wanted to die. My whole identity was wrapped up in being his wife and my self worth was only based on his approval of me.

Have you defined yourself by your role? And now you're left wondering who you really are?

My healing journey led me to my passion to help others get through their heartbreak and know they are not alone.

Do you have a deep desire for community, to feel connected, supported and understood?           You're invited.


Groups are limited in size to give you the most personalized attention.

  • Six weeks of supportive coaching sessions through a weekly live group coaching call

  • Access to the private Facebook Soul Garden Healing community

  • Connect with others for mutual support

  • Discounts on private coaching sessions and personal retreats

I Believe We Heal From Heartbreak in Different Seasons. Which Season Are You In?

  • Falling ~ feeling out of control, swirling in chaos?

  • Frozen ~ feeling numbed and paralyzed?

  • Defrosting ~ starting to really feel the stinging pain?

  • Drought ~ feeling parched and dry like a barren wasteland?

  • Tilling The Soil ~ feeling like you want to plant new seeds?

  • Dormancy ~ you planted some seeds but nothing feels like it's happening?

The guidance I provide will support you if you're feeling:

  • Lost ~ you thought your marriage was forever, now you're unanchored.

  • Scared ~ you have no idea how you'll get through this and what the future looks like.

  • Confused ~ how did you miss the signs that the marriage was in such deep trouble?

  • Anxious ~ you might feel an inner tremble, unable to sleep and you have racing thoughts.

  • Betrayed ~ their infidelity has you questioning if you ever really knew them.


I can help you on your path of grieving the loss of what was, what you thought would be 'forever' and the person you were. Let me show you how to get through your heartbreak. 

Have you been:

  • Wanting to avoid the pain? numbing out?

  • feeling like you don't know what to do to get through it?

  • Not getting the support you need?

I understand. I am the Been There - Done That coach. Really. And I don't want you to experience what I did.

with my coaching, i will guide you to avoid the missteps i made

Mike Dooley and Patty Blue Hayes at Infinite Possibilities Training

My path was bumpy. But now, having become a trained life coach and certified in a program called 'Infinite Possibilities', created by Mike Dooley, of the film, "The Secret", and who authored the book, 'Infinite Possibilities', I am educated in the field of personal development and Law Of Attraction and practice these principles in my life to the best of my ability each beautiful day.


Who better to help you through your heartbreak and self discovery than someone who understands exactly what you are going through?

My compassionate guidance will help you get through this most difficult time. You have embarked on a path of self discovery and I can show you the way.

You don't have to go through this alone.

Imagine if you could feel:

Supported on your healing journey

Connected with others who are healing from heartbreak

Seen, heard and valued for your experience

Imagine if you could learn:

Tools and techniques to support you on your healing journey

How to address your emotions and not avoid them

The importance of how our thoughts, beliefs and actions effect our healing

Imagine Receiving:

Personalized guidance in each live Q&A session

Validation of your feelings

A sense of calm and peace 

patty blue hayes

 A Message From Patty

One of my most heartfelt desires is to help people not feel alone in their heartbreak. My life was spared after I was left feeling broken and abandoned. It is my purpose and passion to use the lessons I've learned and the training I've had to help others.

$ 497 Special Introductory Offer for 6 sessions - 9 hours of coaching.

You will also receive my book:

My Heart Is Broken. Now What? 12 Practices To Heal The Emotional Pain Of Being Abandoned By The One You Love


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I'd like to share more about how I can support you on your journey healing from heartbreak.

Once you fill out the form and send it, I will contact you to set a time to connect and have a chat.


"Patty's advice and understanding was invaluable. She instinctively knew when to push me to the next level and knew when to pause. She is compassionate and funny and together we helped me break some old patterns (negative ones) and replace them with positive tools to use in the situations that challenge me. One thing I loved about working with Patty was together we really focused on results. If a technique didn't work for me we ditched it and found something that did. Life is good at throwing us curves and since spending time with Patty and putting into practice the advice she gave me and things to do when I hit my personal walls I am much better at handling them!"  -  Paula S.

"Patty and I bonded immediately at a conference that we met at. We bonded over the heart break every woman feels at the disillusionment of "happily ever after", the ending of a marriage. She had already gone through the dark night of her soul, and I was about to embark upon mine. Our experiences were very similar and so was the dark realization that there was no "trying harder" to "fix" the men in our marriage. All signs pointed to an end, and all of the painful emotions every woman must walk through to get to freedom: sadness, fear, anxiety, depression, loneliness, second guessing oneself, memories both painful and happy, and the need to figure out who you are now. After the conference Patty was there for me every step of the way. We spoke on the phone, face book, texts. Patty was like a second mother to me, coaching me on through every painful moment. Her coaching style is warm, reassuring and full of compassion. There was never anything but deep love in every word in every conversation. On one particular phone call, I was at my darkest. We spoke for some time and at the end she encouraged me to take a walk in the woods. Reluctantly, I did what she suggested, and I was amazed at the results. She knew just what I needed to make a shift. Through her experiences, Patty knows the pain associated with divorce. And because of that she has come out the other side, full of insights and deep compassion to share with others. I am deeply grateful to Patty for all of her compassionate coaching."  - Jessica 

"Kudos to Patty for the positive ideas she instilled in me last fall! I no longer spend inordinate amounts of time looking back, feeling guilt or regret, or wallowing in self-pity about the past. I'm learning a lot, especially about myself, getting my confidence back, realizing my self worth, having fun, making new friends, and am in a MUCH better place now! I am truly grateful to Patty." - Rob