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                         PATTY BLUE HAYES MEDIA KIT

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Name:  Patty Blue Hayes        

Company Name:  Blue Hayes Publishing and Soul Garden Healing®   

Title:  Author, Life Coach

Address:  3940-7264 Broad Street        City/Province:        San Luis Obispo, CA 93401        

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Telephone Information:   Public / Office:    805-242-6986


Product Specs 

Title: Wine, Sex and Suicide - My Near Death Divorce

Author: Patty Blue Hayes

Publisher: Blue Hayes Publishing

Date of Publication: June 2015

Retail Price: $15.00 (paperback)

ISBN: 978-0-986-1137-7-2

ISBN: 0986113778

Pages: 366

Wine, Sex and Suicide - My Near Death Divorce

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Biography – Three Versions:


Patty Blue Hayes is grateful to have survived her near death divorce. She's the award winning author of the book, Wine, Sex and Suicide – My Near Death Divorce, which chronicles the dark days and manic nights when she felt abandoned and in despair at the abrupt end to her marriage. Hayes eventually transitioned from pain to finding her purpose helping others through her company, Soul Garden Healing®.

(Social media) 

Patty Blue Hayes is grateful to have survived her near death divorce, an event that launched her into the darkest depths of depression. Her award winning book, Wine, Sex and Suicide – My Near Death Divorce, shares her story of loss, vulnerability, and eventual healing. She moved from pain to finding her purpose helping others through heartbreak.

Patty founded Soul Garden Healing®, to help women get through their journey with her signature 12 week audio program, You Can Heal Your Heartbreak™. 

Her articles can be found on Huffington Post, Divorce Force,, Ravishly and Your Tango. 

(Full Bio) 

Patty Blue Hayes is the award winning author of Wine, Sex and Suicide – My Near Death Divorce, which chronicles the dark days and manic nights after the abrupt end of her marriage left her feeling abandoned and broken.

Patty moved from pain to purpose and founded Soul Garden Healing®, a company offering products and services devoted to supporting those gripped by heartbreak. 

Her 12 week audio program, You Can Heal Your Heartbreak™, supports women on their healing journey. Her book, My Heart Is Broken. Now What? – 12 Practices To Heal The Emotional Pain Of Being Abandoned By The One You Love, gives readers the tools and techniques to get through the first seasons of falling and frozen after the abrupt end of a relationship.

Patty writes for Divorce Force, Huffington Post and other online publications.  

She lives in California with a happy heart and a peaceful soul.


Patty Blue Hayes is one grateful woman. Why? Because she survived a devastating heartbreak that brought her to the deepest depths of depression filled with unbearable loneliness, self-loathing, and feelings of abandonment and isolation. She chronicles her dark days and manic nights in her award winning book, Wine, Sex and Suicide – My Near Death Divorce.

She went from barely surviving to discovering the path to move from pain to find purpose.  

She's also the author of, My Heart is Broken. Now What?, which offers 12 practices for healing the emotional pain of heartbreak.

Today, Patty Blue Hayes is the founder of Soul Garden Healing®, a company that offers products and services to help others heal from heartbreak. She's the creator of the 12 week audio program, You Can Heal Your Heartbreak.™
Patty's articles can be found on Huffington Post, Divorce Force, Your Tango, Ravishly and others. She lives in California with a happy heart and a peaceful soul.

Passages from the Book:

Tuesday, November 9, 2010
I sat like a pathetic lump at my psychiatrist appointment this morning, lounging in the leather chair of his high rise Century City office and staring out at the horizon of LA’s Westside. I felt insignificant.
“Can you increase the Prozac?” I asked. “And is there anything to help me get some sleep?” 

He nodded, “Are you able to fall asleep and then wake up? Or can you not fall asleep at all?”


It seemed we each let out a sigh at the same time.

I teared up, “Is there a pill to help me cope and get through this pain any faster?” 

He offered an empathetic smile and said there was no magic pill. But he did increase the milligrams on my Prozac and wrote a prescription for Trazadone to help me sleep. 

I’m going to need it, especially on the incredibly long flights to and from Romania. 

Thursday, December 16, 2010
I’d sent Peter an email inquiring about the cost for a filling for the young boy who was having pain. I may never raise funds for all the kids to have a dental exam, but I can help this one kid who happened to lose a filling while I’m here. If a one-hour massage is under $10, how much could one little filling be?
I got to the St. Francis house just as the kids were saying their “thanks for the grub” prayer after dinner. While Peter and I were talking about the dentist, I noticed a bit of commotion from the kids crowding near the kitchen pass-through window. I assumed they were being served cookies or cake, but it was a bowl of bananas and tangerines. That was the only time I’d seen the kids scrambling for any type of food. 
It’s rumored many of the locals have concerns regarding proper nutrition for the children. Many of the kids have had illnesses related to an improper diet. It seemed to be another conflict some of the locals had with the administration at the St. Francis house. But I wondered what more they were supposed to do, given how many children they were caring for with clearly limited funds. 
After I’d had some of the tap water to drink, Peter told me the well was contaminated and advised me not to drink anymore of the water. A few sips won’t do any harm, but I can only hope that the future Neveloks and children are instructed not to drink it as well.

From the 5250

At some point during daylight, I was wheeled on a gurney to an ambulance with two female paramedics who were transferring me to the psychiatric hospital. The one sitting with me in the back was very compassionate, asking me questions every so often and resting her hand on my shoulder. I wondered how I ended up there? 

How did I end up being the one on the gurney instead of living a purposeful life helping people like she was?

The drive took forever and I wondered who the hell would go that far to pick me up. They wheeled me inside to a small hospital lobby, where I struggled to get off the gurney without falling to the floor or revealing my unclothed body beneath the hospital gown. As I sat shivering, wrapped in a thin blanket, my picture was taken and nurses processed my information. 

Everyone addressed me as Patricia, the name on my driver’s license. My father called me Patricia when he was mad at me, so every time anyone said my name, I felt like I was in trouble. And I guess I was.

Chaotic people shuffled in the hallway, mumbling, yelling, and flinging their arms about. I realized I was now one of them. I didn’t feel entirely safe around some of the other patients, but I tried to be respectful and not judge, because we were all there for a reason. 

I was taken to a dark bare room with three single beds. Paperwork was placed on the table by my bedside. I gulped a small cup of water and fell deeply asleep. 
Sometime that night, two other women were brought into my room. One was an Asian woman with long hair and sad eyes like mine. I wondered if she was there from a broken heart as well.

Favorite Quotes:

•    Plant the seed of hope while going through heartbreak
•    Love for ourselves is the first love
•    Faith is a continual practice, not a one time occurrence
•    The seed does not become a blossom overnight
•    Are you living your purpose in life or someone else’s?
•    Healing from heartbreak takes time. Think back to a time you healed from a loss and know you will get through this one, too.
•    Our souls are here to experience joy beyond the boundary of pain we may be feeling.
•    When one rainbow fades away, look to the skies for your next one.
•    What would the world look like if people in their personal darkness didn’t feel alone? That’s my hope.
•    Life isn’t about weathering the storm, it’s about learning to dance in the rain

Topic #1:  The Three Essential Tools To Keep It Together When You’ve Been Dumped

Synopsis of Interview:

Based on my personal experience and my training, I’ve come up with a  “top three” list of tools to engage when the one you love walks out. 

The Promise of the Interview:

•    Learn why support may not come from those closest to you, and where to look to get the support you need.
•    Discover why a self-care plan is a vital component of weathering this storm.
•    Find out why a gratitude practice is beneficial from day one.
•    Suggestions on keeping perspective.

Topic #2:  The Important Lessons I Learned While On Lockdown

Synopsis of Interview:

There were surprising benefits to being in the controlled environment of a psychiatric hospital.

The Promise of the Interview:

•    Recognize the “sharp objects” in your life and discover how to remove them.
•    How to establish “emotional lockdown” for your own wellbeing.
•    Why I recommend maxing out a credit card on just one item.
•    The value of knowing you’re not alone, and a Buddhist practice to help you get there.

Topic #3: What Is Soul Garden Healing® As A Heartbreak Recovery Guide?

Synopsis of Interview:

Discuss how I came up with “garden and seasons” as a theme for my forthcoming book, Soul Garden Healing – A Seasonal Guide To Healing From Heartbreak.

The Promise of Interview:

•    Learn what ‘season’ you’re in with grief
•    Discover practices to help ease the pain of heartbreak
•    The steps to get to peace.

Interview Questions

Question 1:  Your story is one of real vulnerability. What made you decide to be public with such private and revealing details of your personal life?

Question 2:  What made you move away from the random sex and all the excessive drinking?

Question 3: What were the most helpful things you did to get you moving forward toward healing? 

Question 4:  Looking back now, why do you think you stayed in a marriage that had gotten so volatile?

Question 5: How do you suggest people work on elevating their feelings of self worth?